It is crazy how time flies. Almost a year has passed since my wedding and I have yet to write a blog post about the amazing day. Well, today is the day….no more procrastinating.
Working in the wedding industry has allowed me to be a part of some truly awesome weddings. From elaborate, grand affairs to charming backyard bashes I have seen and done it all. With all this experience, I was able to figure out exactly what I wanted for my own nuptials. As a somewhat reserved person I knew that I did not want a big, expensive wedding; instead, I wanted something more intimate. My dream was to have a wedding that would allow me to enjoy myself and my fiancé Alex with our handful of guests.
When I began planning my wedding it was right on the cusp of my soon to be busy wedding season. The option was to either wait a year for the next spring or plan our wedding in three short weeks – I chose the latter. The thought was a bit overwhelming at first, but once I started the process I knew it could be done. Weddings are about celebrating love (not to sound too cheesy) and as my big day quickly approached I realized planning a wedding in three weeks allowed me to focus on the true meaning of marriage. I wasn’t able to get hung up on all the small, sometimes insignificant details. Instead I had to choose what I wanted and not second guess any of my decisions.
The most important part for me in planning my wedding was being open and not lamenting on the things I couldn’t have. For instance, my wedding dress could have been a major stress. Usually, it takes months to find the perfect gown. From childhood to adulthood girls dream about their “perfect” dress that will make them not only look amazing but fulfill all their youthful fantasies. For me I had put those fantasies aside and sought to find my perfect dress given my time frame. I ended up ordering it online believe it or not. In five days time my dress arrived via FedEx and lo and behold all that it needed in terms of alterations was a hem. If I could have had more time to search and try on dresses who knows what I would have selected, but this dress was beautiful and everything I could have imagined for my day.
As the weeks ticked by and our wedding day quickly approached I was surprised that I had none of the common pre-wedding jitters. My jitters were replaced with only excitement. Looking back I think I was able to avoid those unwanted feelings because we had such a short engagement. There wasn’t time to worry or second guess. Decision making can be a stress reliever and when we made our wedding decisions they were final. No going back, no ifs, and, or buts. As a result, we were able to have a more relaxed attitude, which made the process all the more fun.
I know that planning a wedding in three weeks is not typical, but no matter the length of your engagement I recommend trying to look at your wedding with this frame of mind. Because in the end your wedding is suppose to be a celebration. It won’t ruin your day if the napkins on your reception tables are ivory and your chair covers are white. What matters is that you are happy and excited to join your life with your partner. I am a firm believer when you take on this attitude, not only will you enjoy your wedding more but so will all of your guests. The memories you make will not be focused on all the stress of planning your wedding, but instead will be of a day that was filled with love, happiness, and joy.
Look for my next blog post that will give you a step by step break down of the steps to planning a wedding in just a few short weeks.